I have yet to fully grasp the amount of fear that governs our daily lives and the decisions we make, big and small. When I look around at the “modern” world and listen in on my own thoughts, I can taste it. Fear is everywhere. It isn’t a real fear of death, hunger or abuse, but rather one that flickers just behind the eyelids, that leads you to question yourself at every turn your life takes.
These are the fears of the modern world, the fears of those privileged enough to plan (and fear) for the future.
“Should I take this job?” “Have I made the right decision about my mortgage? My partner?” “What will happen if I do this or that? Or worse what will happen if I don’t?”
Fear, if being chased by angry lions, is healthy. It forces you to make swift decisions, to drive on despite pain and suffering, to fight until that last dying breath. But constant fear in an inordinate dosage is paralyzing. Fear plays on those life dreams we all have, leading us to constantly question ourselves, methodically stripping away at that confidence we most need to deal with the inevitably winding and rocky path of life. Rather than move forward, confident with each step that we are living our purpose, fear straps a heavy ball and chain to our ankle and builds imaginary walls in every direction we turn.
Abandoning fear is the start of fulfilling your dreams.
Many of us have been born into a life where we really can fulfill those giddy childhood dreams. So dust them off, drown out the sounds of yourself and others calling those dreams “crazy” and “unrealistic”, and think of that first step. Reality starts with what you think and tell your inner self, and if your inner self wants to write a book, be an astronaut, travel the world or help others, well that is your reality.
Now if you are anything like me, you will have read to this point with an open ear and nodding head. But you will now stop me to say- “But, that sounds difficult. I don’t think I can do that. I want to do _____ but I don’t know enough, don’t have enough time, don’t know anyone in that industry. There are so many others out there who are better than me at ______.”
That is your fear talking, and let it. Just remind yourself at each doubting moment how powerful your thoughts really are, and keep the positive, constructive ones flowing. Eventually your dreams will drown out your doubts until fear only takes over when you are being chased by a crowd of angry lions. (At that point, listen to your fear and RUN!)
Some parting inspiration from Brazilian entrepreneur Bel Pesce as you confidently step out on your dream path-
“Life is never about the goals themselves. Life is about the journey. Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves, but people think that you have dreams, and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams, it’s a magical place where happiness will be all around. But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation, and your life is not. The only way to really achieve all of your dreams is to fully enjoy every step of your journey. That’s the best way.”